Identifying Your Fears – Blog
Acknowledging your fears is one of the most powerful steps to achieving your dreams and living the life to your full potential. Take a moment to reflect on what your fears are. Example: fear of letting others down, Fear of success…(yes this is a true thing!), Fear of being seen as a fraud, etc, etc.
Is Fear bad?
Yes & No….Fear of the unknown…NO! Fear that you’re life is in danger…Yes!
“Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do.
Remember my rule of thumb: The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.
Resistance is experienced as fear; the degree of fear equates to the strength of Resistance. Therefore the more fear we feel about a specific enterprise, the more certain we can be that that enterprise is important to us and to the growth of our soul. That’s why we feel so much Resistance. If it meant nothing to us, there’d be no Resistance.”
So you may be asking yourself what is the root of our fear? Well that’s a hard question to answer because it can come from anywhere. But I like to use Ego and Self to help answer this question.
What is ego?
Ego is what keeps us safe, it’s that voice in our heads that says “Stay safe, we’re good here, you don’t need to go out and try. Everything you have is right here in your safety bubble”. Sometimes we need this voice, but it has to lead to intuition. We need to tap into Self….
What is Self?
Self wishes to create, to evolve. Self believes all beings are one. If I hurt you, I hurt myself.
- Dreams come from the Self
- Ideas come from the Self
- The Self Is the Deepest Being
This boils down to one of two mindsets: Fixed Mindset or Growth Mindset.
Examples of fixed are: I’m not as good as others, I don’t like to be challenged, I’d rather be told what to do, I give up when I’m frustrated, I stick to what I know.
Examples of Growth are: Failure is an opportunity to grow, I like to try new things, I can learn do try new things, Feedback is constructive, I’m inspired by the success of others.
Fears have a lot to do with what kind of mindset we have, but even people with a growth mindset still have daily fears of not being enough and being scared of failing. The difference is that they’re willing to take the risks of falling and when they do fall and hit the dirt, they know they haven’t failed, they just haven’t found a way to be successful yet. They know that there are lessons in the fall, there are things to learn, and when you stand back up you have the more knowledge and more tools to use the second time around.
Fears I believe are something you never overcome, I believe they are something we lean into, we learn to use as a guide. Fear hides in a corner somewhere and when you’re about ready to level up, it appears. You have to make the choice, is the fear worth standing up to? Trust me as a person who jumps in with both feet, all I can tell you is, sometimes you make the jump and sometimes you fall hard, but the ride is always amazing! Because I’ve learnt it’s not about the actual leap, it’s about the journey you embark on when you make the decision to follow your dreams. Jumping is easy, it’s everything you learn from the actual point of take off to your landing. That my friends is where the pure magic lives!